Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Hi, My Name is Tere, and I'm a Writer


There, I said it. Funny how much that admission sounds like the start of a support group meeting. But ya know, after yesterday's post, and all the supportive comments from y'all, I realized that this online writing community we have here IS my writing support group.

Whether it's Abby Annis sending me a much needed ego boost, or Susan Mills telling me it can be okay to edit as you go, it's a nice change to be surrounding myself with such supportive, positive people. People who understand what's going on in my writing life. My husband and friends are as supportive as they can be, but they don't exactly understand the compulsion to write, or what it takes to persevere through rejection letter after rejection letter without giving up or kicking your laptop down a flight of stairs. Or what it's like to feel more at home in a made up world than in the real one.

You may not know this about me, but I'm an introvert. It's hard for me to make friends, and even harder to feel like a part of a group. For a lot of reasons-- enough reasons to fill an emotional portmanteau. Yes, I have baggage. But I'm working on it. I have to admit I can be a very bad friend sometimes because of this, and I'm ashamed to admit that in the past I've used my writing as an excuse to be a bad friend.

Over the past few months I've realized that being a part of this online writing community has filled a hole inside me I didn't even know was there. And I've regained a confidence that I thought I'd lost, which is one of the reasons I'm joining Choir. I need more creative outlets than just writing and blogging. I need to get over my fear of rejection-- not rejection from agents, but from potential friends and peers.

I'd almost rather people sent rejection letters. They're usually quick and to the point-- nothing personal, right? It's easier for me to deal with rejection in print, anyway. (Of course, we'd still scour form rejections for some kind of subjective reason we were rejected. ;D ) In fact, most things are easier for me to type than to say, ergo it takes much less effort to make friends online. Probably because I felt that books made better friends than people when I was a child. Books probably were my first friends. Maybe that's another reason I feel so much more at ease around my fellow writers: they're friends of old friends. I take heart knowing that there are so many people on the planet experiencing the same exhilaration, pride, and nervous nail-biting that I experience on my writerly journey.

So I want to dedicate this post to you all, my fellow writers, who have not only helped me become a better novelist, but also a better person.

Thanks y'all!

And don't worry, I'm not going all mushy on you. Tune in tomorrow for your regularly scheduled diatribe on something asinine. See ya then!

8 comments:

Hardygirl said...

Amen!!! It would be a lonely biz without all of these online writer-friends.

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Tere Kirkland said...

Yeah you right!


And congrats again, Sarah, for living the dream!

Abby Annis said...

Hi, Tere! I'm a writer too. Crazy! :) We are SO much alike. I was just thinking about a lot of the same stuff this morning. Maybe that psychic thing's working better than you thought. Glad you're feeling better. :)

Susan R. Mills said...

I couldn't agree with you more. This online group is amazing. We're all this together.

Lisa and Laura said...

Oh I love this post! I think it's amazing to see writers meeting writers, filling voids, learning from each other. It's a community and man are we glad you're a part of it!

Tere Kirkland said...

Abby, I told you I was puh-sychic! Thanks again for all your support, hon.

Susan, you'll always be the least lazy writer I know!

LiLa, you know I look up to y'all. My favorite pair of writing sisters. But you two won't be leaving us along the wayside now that y'all are practically published writers, huh? We'd sure miss you if you did!

Terresa said...

I feel the same way about my online writing community. While my real-life writers group is still in the beginning stages, I feel like I have a group of amazing, honest, well-rounded writer friends online who buoy me up and encourage me forward.

Great post!

Tere Kirkland said...

Terresa, here's honest and encouraging writer friends. You can never have too many! Cheers!